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10 months already?

10 Mar

This week, Henry and Julianne will be 10 months old.  I can hardly believe how quickly they are changing from tiny, milk-hungry blobs into real human beings!  Julianne often smiles with her one gummy tooth and mutters PaPaPaPa… I’m not sure if she understands what she is saying or is just mimicking, but either way, it’s amazing.  Henry can pull himself up into a standing position, but hasn’t quite figured out how to get back down.  Our days tend to repeat themselves on the same sleep and feeding schedule, and I wouldn’t change a thing.  Here are a few pics:

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During my downtime (ha) this week, I want to write an update on the second parent adoption process in the state of New York.  We seem to be moving in the right direction, but it is taking much longer than we anticipated.


An Interview with The New Dads

5 May

We shot this interview in late March, but we can finally share it here since word is out at work that I’m leaving to become a full-time dad to our twins. 🙂

The interview ended up on iVillage, Huffington Post, AOL Video, and popped up on blogs and on Twitter. We had a lot of fun doing it, and hope it helps spread the news to all manner of people looking to start families that there are more great ways to do so than ever before.


Notes from the Twittersphere

1 May

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Truth. 😉

Happy New Year!

1 Jan


Happy New Year from New Dads on the Block!

This is the year we’ll become dads together.

We’re thrilled, and so grateful.


Josh & Matt

Dads Out For Drinks

5 Dec

Last night Matt and I went out to Bamboo 52 in Hell’s Kitchen (easy location, good happy hour specials) for drinks with a friend who also has a pregnancy under way with Rotunda Clinic in Mumbai.

We know our friend from my years working and writing for a national parenting magazine (of all things!). We got in touch again when we realized we were going down the same path to parenthood, and even with the same clinic.

cocktailWe won’t say his name because he hasn’t done the “big reveal” with his family yet—letting them know he’s an expectant dad, soon to reach the end of the first trimester. He made a very interesting point: many couples, who conceive a baby without medical assistance, don’t tell anyone the pregnancy news until the first trimester is through and the danger of miscarriage is greatly reduced, and so he decided not to tell family yet, either. So, to say the least, his family has a big Christmas surprise coming. Couldn’t be happier for him.

It’s hard to express how nice it was to “talk shop” with someone going through the very same process—the medical tests, the expenses, the visas and travel plans, the sonograms, the getting-baby-home bureaucracy planning, similar timelines, similar questions, etc. It’s one of those times that Matt and I feel grateful for living in New York City, a place big enough (and with enough people similar to us) that there are others who are going through the exact same process, and some even working with the  same clinic. If Matt and I lived in either of our hometowns, for example, it’s very unlikely we could just randomly have drinks with a friend just happening to also be undergoing gestational surrogacy halfway around the world.

This blog has been so helpful, too, because it has put us in touch with so many people, including a lovely husband and wife in Australia who also have a pregnancy under way with our clinic. They’re a few months ahead of us; our friend here in New York is a few weeks behind us. The nice thing is that each of us can share our experiences with each other at different points in the timelines, saying “Okay, expect this to happen in a few weeks,” etc. It’s very cool, these friendships and kinships starting through this (amazing, exciting, nerve racking) shared experience.

Also, you know what this means: There may be a baby playgroup of Rotunda Clinic alums forming here in NYC, with honorary members scattered around the globe. 🙂


Oprah Interviews Gay Dads Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

15 Jun

Today is Neil Patrick Harris’s birthday, so it seems like a perfect time to post Oprah’s interview with Neil and his fiancé, David Burtka, which aired a few days ago on OWN.

Check out the kitchen in the Harris-Burtka house as the couple gives Oprah the grand tour. All I have to say about that kitchen is “yes, please”:

Meet Gideon and Harper, Neil and David’s twins, born via gestational surrogate:

Love these two as a couple. So happy for them and their family.

Watch a bootleg of the full Oprah’s Next Chapter episode featuring Neil, David, and their twins.