So the urologist called me back to give me some good news. My sperm are “normal.” I guess that’s a good thing, because when the results were received by the Rotunda Clinic, they were pleased enough to ask us for a range of potential travel dates.
I can’t explain how scary it is to wait for test results like these. You live your entire life just assuming that you will one day be able to have kids, but to spend a week waiting for a lab tech to count your sperm is completely unnerving. One of the statistics that I came across while researching our options stated that “10-15% of male/female couples are infertile, and that at least one in five 18-25 year old men in Europe have semen quality in the subfertile range.” I’m well past 25, and I’m pretty sure that the rate gets worse with age. At least this is one less thing to stress over, and now we can focus on saving up as much money as possible before a potential trip to India in July.
In slightly less exciting news, I got my Indian visa back without any headache. I received a text message alert that it had been processed and was available for pickup between 4 and 6:30 p.m. M-F. The line at the Travisa Outsourcing India location was even longer than during the drop-off, but people were much happier as they were there to claim their reward for navigating a sea of bureaucratic paperwork. Josh submitted his paperwork yesterday, so we should have his visa in hand by early next week.
It’s hard to write this blog without getting a little bit emotional. Everything is happening so quickly, and I know that I can’t wait to be a father, but it’s difficult to complete all of these requirements without treating the whole process like a checklist of actions, not necessarily like a path to a child. Every once in a while, the reality of what we are doing hits me, and I’m simultaneously choked up and grinning from ear to ear. Thank you to all of our friends for your support as we start flipping through pages of anonymous egg donor bios.